Why Are Women Making Good Men Wait While Bad Boys Skip the Line?

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There was a moment on social media that felt like it needed to be preserved in a museum. A woman was asked a simple, harmless question: “How long would you make a guy wait before getting intimate?” And instead of giving a normal, balanced answer, she offered something so wild it felt like a plot twist nobody saw coming.

She said, without even blinking, “If we just met and he’s a bad boy? Oh, he’s not waiting. We’re getting down and dirty as fast as we can.” No hesitation, no pause, no internal audit of life choices — just straight to Fast & Furious: Relationship Edition.

But then she shifted gears like she had just remembered her LinkedIn password. “But if he’s a successful intellect, well put together, has his stuff handled, looks like husband material…” Suddenly she morphs into a Victorian-era queen. “He will wait. I will stretch the timeline so long he’ll be begging. I will test him. I will observe him. I will become the boss-level character he must defeat before access is granted.”

Ladies… what is happening? Who is giving you this advice? Which committee held this meeting? Because this logic is the equivalent of saying, “Yes, I have five kids by five different men, but when I meet the one I actually like? Oh, I’m celibate. I’m reborn. I’m basically a saint now.” Like—HELLO? How did we get here?

You can’t go full WWE Royal Rumble for the guys you know have zero future potential, then turn around and build a fortress, a moat, and a multi-step authentication process for the men you actually see a life with. That’s not strategy… that’s self-sabotage with glitter.

And look, this isn’t judgment. It’s more of a gentle head shake from the universe. Because deep down, everyone knows the truth: the games don’t help. They don’t protect you. They don’t magically make someone value you more. They just create confusion, delay real connection, and turn dating into a psychological escape room nobody asked to be trapped in.

If you like someone? Act like it. If you don’t? Also act like it. Simple. No mazes. No secret missions. No “Let me make the good man suffer while the guy with two active warrants gets VIP access.”

Because at the end of the day, love isn’t supposed to be a punishment for the right person and a reward for the wrong one. It’s supposed to feel easy, honest, and a little chaotic in a good way — not the kind that makes your therapist open a new notebook.

Ladies, you deserve something real. So let’s retire the games, the tests, the “wait until he’s on his knees” timelines. If you want the right man to show up, stop making him pass the Hunger Games just to get a coffee date.

Life is short. Love is shorter. And relationships don’t need dramatic plotlines to be meaningful — just two people who show up without nonsense.

Now that’s a game worth playing.